ROLE OF WOMEN IN SUSTENACES OF MARRIAGE IN IT SECTOR

ROLE OF WOMEN IN SUSTENACES OF MARRIAGE IN IT SECTOR

          Any civilization that is built on money cannot last long. The urge for possession leads the world towards disaster. People in today’s IT sector have become too much engrossed in making money. They work under tight schedules and lead a life of great stress. In the modern world both men and women have unlimited capabilities and they try to work to the best of their abilities. They lead a sedentary life. In the world of hectic work schedule, omni present deadlines and cut throat competition, there is not place for family. It is here where working people face extreme difficulties in juggling their work and family obligation. It is hard time for working families, specially parents (wife) as work almost runs in conflict with their home commitments.

          Eg: An important meeting of the office may clash with their son’s exams, or some one at home may fall ill. Then starts the fight as to, who has to be at home. The sense of ego starts working. Nurturing super ego is the fundamental problem of the modern world. Thus the modern mind gets distracted. If there is a pull of ego on an side, another side they sense the guilt of leaving the sick people behind unattended and attending the office work weighs on their mind and leaves them distracted and disturbed.

          Thus the eternal pursuit, the perpetual aim possessed by spirit and the ultimate aspiration of man is the search for happiness. And this search for happiness we do in everything possible. But the question is who is most happy in this world? Are big bosses happy? Are call centre executives happy, simple sales man happy; who who is the question! The question remains a question.

          Yes for happiness is not found in possessions or promotions. It is found in this moment. It is found in self sufficient. The unlimited desires leads is to disaster and distraction and distraction leads to stress anger and frustration. Than what is the solution? It is high time as to think of it. How to protect the society, how to protect the marriage, how best can we maintain the relations? The answer is values. We should have a valued based society.  Stop worshiping mammoth and start worshiping the infinite. Return to the nature back to our culture. India is a country of rich tradition. It has got a rich cultural heritage where marriage institution plays a vital role.

          Talking about the institution of marriage, the book of common prayer says– “To have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for riches for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish and to obey, till death us do part”.

          Marriage is a social, religious, spiritual or even legal union of individuals. This union can be termed as matrimony. The ceremony that marks its beginning is called a wedding and the married status created is sometimes called wed lock.  In a general sense, marriage is a personal union between individuals. After the marriage, the personal status of each individual changes in the eyes of society. As we all know, marriage is an institution in which inter personal relationships are acknowledged by the state or by the religions authority. It is often considered as a social contract.

          The objective of marriage is many and people marry for many reasons. People may marry for legal, social and economic stability, even to form their own unit of family, procreation and education and maintaining of children, even legitimizing sexual relations, public declaration of love are the dominant factors. In some cases obtaining citizenship is possible through marriage documents.

          Marriage as a institution   has undergone a sea change. We know a union between one man and one woman as husband and wife is a monogamous, hetro sexual marriage, which is prevalent in almost all countries including India. In case of polygamy in which a person takes more than one spouse which is common in many societies. Of late in European / Western societies we see giving recognition to marriages of same sex, gay marriages have become the order of the day.

Rights and Obligations

          A marriage by definition bestows certain rights and obligations on the married parties and some times their relatives are also brought under its ambit. They may include:

1.     Giving a husband / wife or his / her family control over a spouse’s sexual services, labour and property.

2.     Giving a husband / wife or his / her responsibility for spouses debts

3.     Establishing the second legal guardian of a parent’s child.

4.     Establishing a joint fund of property for the benefit of children.

5.     Establishing a relationship between the families of the spouses.

All these obligations vary from society to society.

Cohabitation:

          Marriage as an institution has done a wonderful service to mankind. It bridges lives in variety of emotional and economic ways.

          Marriages leads to the formation of new house hold. In some cultures (west sumatra) residency after marriage is Matrilocal, with the husband moving into the household of his wife’s mother. Residency after marriage can also be patri local.

          Walking marriages have become common in China (Beijing) in which the husband and wife do not live together. (They keep away for business purposes).

          Marriage is not a pre requisite of cohabitation. In some cases couples living together do not like to be recognized as married. (But it has its limitation as each one is in capacitated getting pension or there can be hurdles to clear immigration formalities. But some countries permit cohabitation (Australia).

Objectives of Marriage:

1. Sex and Procreation: Marriage basically aims at satiating, the body needs. Some people remain childless, either by choice or due to infertility and some may prevent conception. Even there are cases where people have children outside marriage, making marriage as a institution in-capacitated.  In USA National Centre of Health statistics reports nearly 35% of birth was reported from unmarried women, rendering children suffer with legal disadvantages and social stigma. In our society through there is a staunch opposition to this kind of practice yet we do come across this kind of nature in IT sector. Sexual relations by a married person with someone other than his/her spouse is normally called adultery.

Marriage of convenience:

          In recent days if we observe, there is a tendency which has crept into our society that the marriages are taking place for the convenience, which is introduced as  Green card marriage. People try to marry for pragmatic reasons, to obtain a permanent residency (Green card in USA). Under these condition we cannot expect the marriages to sustain. They may crumble like cards, so it is the need of the hour to think over it.

1.           Talking about women Francis Bacon says, ‘Wives are young men’s mistresses, companions for middle ages and old men’s nurses’.

2.           Women in her various capacities has got the power to change the world. The hand that rocks the cradle can rule the world also.

3.           Value education is the need of the hour as educating a women is educating a family, we should give value education along with basic education. A society devoid of value will crumble soon. Parental upbringing is very important in these days. What reaps at a later stage is what we sow in the beginning. To be human, you need art and culture also. Mere science and commerce is not life. A little of charity, friendship fellow feeling, respect for each other is most essential.

          Time management and staying cool are key strategies to face the life challenges. Concentrating on time management and wise distribution of the available time to different members of the family could make huge differences in the family. Have faith in each other, try to understand each others problems. A little of concern and care is most necessary.

          ‘What therefore God both joined together, let not man put asunder’ – Says the Bible.

          So let us together work for it and try to protect our families and the society.